“Waaaaaaa, waaaaaaaaa, waaaaaaaa, Waaaahhh”, my baby was howling, just wouldn’t stop…..I was so lost, what to do now??…..
I remember very clearly I put my child in a creche when he was 1 year old. Had no choice but to get on with life. One of the most difficult decisions for a mom to make. Ok, let bygones be bygones, we shall cross this bridge too…Got him into the creche, walked around the creche like a eagle for a month before I could let go!! But there was still one thing unaddressed..he was still not weaned off from breast feed…Everytime I went to pick him up in the evening, he wouldn’t let me drive, he just wanted his boo boo!! Just wouldn’t stop wailing till he got that? How do we move???
So I kept a driver for my car, let me feed him while the driver drives. And pickup up from creche was quite late in the evening, so no sunlight, no visibility. Still, the thought always kept nagging me, was the driver watching, did he know I was feeding? The sound of a suckling baby? What was going on in his mind? These thoughts would just not allow me to feed him in peace…Till one day I just let my driver go, because I couldn’t deal with this fact. I would then spend 10 more minutes at my baby’s creche, feed him and then leave for home.
Today, when I look back at those days, and compare to where we are now, 12 years later, I realise that not much has changed for us mommies. Yes we have even public places where we can feed our child today, most of the malls have a feeding room. But what happens till the mommy reaches the mall, what happens enroute? With most babies taking a feed every 2 hours, it becomes really difficult for a new mom to actually step out of the house itself, time management becomes such a critical issue, this get dictated by our child’s feed times.
Last year I drove a client, a new mother, 6 month old baby. I remember she called me, made me drive nowhere planned for 3 hours, all because she just wanted to get out of the house, do some little bit of shopping. She chose TAXSHE because she could feed her baby in the presence of a woman, without disturbing thoughts rattling her mind. Such a basic simple need na, to feed your child in peace?
Yes, I started TAXSHE for the safety of women and kids. Today I realise I had done a little more than that, given a private space to mommies and babies, and I love it. Discovering new good from my work!
When God made mommies to bring in little lives and nurture them, why do we have to go through such difficulty to breast feed? Why should the baby have to wait for the boo boo?